Likely, you are aware of the role that body language plays in communication, but perhaps not familiar with the magnetic field produced by the human brain and heart. Scientific research on interaction among both humans and animals confirms that direct communication takes place, outside of the conventional five senses, in the biofield around our body that looks like a torus (or doughnut) shape. An easy-to-visualize example of this is how a deer, or other creature, senses when we are looking at them. The neurons of the heart are involved in energetic communication that can be sensed at long distances. These non-sensory signals provide an unconscious perception of what someone is thinking or feeling.
Self-situational awareness is an important aspect of personal interaction, yet little is said or written about it. The art of nonverbal communication, body language, has existed since ancient Sumeria and Egypt. In the business world, success often requires one to be situationally aware of how they come across to customers, colleagues, and their employers. I’m not talking about showboating to make oneself look good, but rather knowing how to convey information in a fashion that enhances how it is received.
The same applies to personal relationships. A lot goes on in our subconscious that we are not aware of, and it reveals itself through body movement, facial expressions, and intonation where emotions and feelings are articulated through vocal nuances. So, if we harbor negative thoughts about someone, we may be unable to hide this fact.
There are aspects of communication that we can work on. For instance, great salespeople often practice their “sales pitch” in front of a mirror or video camera. Their success requires more than a superficial performance, they must learn how to really connect with a customer in a meaningful manner. You can do this same practice to get better at interpersonal communication. Use such practice as an opportunity to learn how to build trust inside your heart. Listening to the other person, as well, is a huge step to improving relationships. Be cognizant of your speech, both in words and mannerisms. It is very important to consider the other person's sensitivities as well. This doesn’t mean you avoid talking about those areas, but approach it in a manner that makes them feel safe to engage in real and honest communication that you both can benefit from.
Here are some more tips: the eyes and the mouth are the most important facial features when it comes to conveying the message. This is primarily where the listener is focusing so we need to pay attention to them. We cannot consciously override the subconscious. During casual conversation, our true self takes over (for example childhood drama is being unconsciously expressed) by our voice and motor responses. The best strategy is to relax. We attract and manifest every situation that arises in our lives. That is why it is essential to remember that nobody can harm us, just our own thoughts…
Additionally, there are ways to access the subconscious mind and change "wrongdoing" patterns that affect both your relationships and your health. You can practice following "safe at home" self-healing therapeutic techniques such as Self-Hypnosis, Muscle Tests, EFT tapping, Spontaneous Projective Drawings, Ho'oponopono, and others. Only you truly, deep inside, know what is beneficial for you and what is needed for your well-being.
Above all else, though, use each of your life situations to create a better you rather than looking at it as an obstacle. Let problems become opportunities!
Yours faithfully,
HAC
